Motherhood: Breaking Generational Cycles: Raising Children Differently (2)

Hello Great Mothers!

Our method of parenting is shaped by how we were raised. We often consciously or unconsciously adopt the parenting styles of our parents.

However, not all these parenting styles are good for our children’s well-being today. They have negative impacts on their mental health and our relationship with them.

For example; Breaking generational cycles of parenting requires self-awareness, being intentional to change, and a commitment to fostering a healthier environment.

Understanding these generational patterns is the first step toward breaking generational cycles of parenting cycles that do not support children’s well-being. So many things have changed in today’s world, including parenting styles. There is a need to adopt the parenting styles

This article identifies generational parenting styles that have harmful impacts on the well-being of our children today.

1)The Cycle of Continuous use of Strict Discipline and Harsh Punishments

In many households, past generations relied on the continuous use of strict discipline to enforce obedience and respect. This involves physical punishment or verbal outbursts. Though disciplining our children is important in teaching obedience, responsibility, and respect, research has shown that excessive use of harsh punishment to enforce discipline can lead to fear, low self-esteem, and emotional withdrawal. Excessive use of harsh punishment makes children lie to cover up their bad behaviors.

Instead of raising disciplined children, one may end up with children who struggle with anxiety, have poor decision-making skills, or have difficulty expressing emotions.

How can this cycle of parenting style be broken?

● Do not always use physical punishment to discipline, though it may be used once in a while, and also let the children know why

● Use more positive reinforcement, using consequences that teach rather than instill fear.

● Encourage open dialogue so children feel safe discussing mistakes without fear of extreme consequences.

● Model emotional regulation and problem-solving skills instead of reacting with anger or threats.

Also Read: Motherhood- Nurturing Tomorrow’s Leaders With Love (1)

The essence of disciplining children is to teach them obedience, responsibility, and respect, and not to make them fearful and have low self-esteem.

More discussions on this in the next article.

Note: Motherhood is more than an obligation—it’s a legacy of love, strength, and purpose that lasts beyond a lifetime