Motherhood: Mom-Teenage Son Conversations that matter (9)

Let’s talk about Girls; Love, and Emotional Feelings

Hello Great Mothers!

Our sons are noticing them. And it’s natural. They may feel drawn to how a girl looks, talks, dresses, walks, or makes them feel—and sometimes they can’t even explain it. But this is not the time to panic or shut them down. It’s time to teach.

The world is loud with messages about love and relationships—through music, movies, social media, and even classmates. But most of those messages are built on lies, not truth. If we don’t speak now, the world will shape our sons’ view of love in a way that can lead them astray.

So, we must let our sons know that being attracted to a girl isn’t wrong—but acting on those feelings too soon can lead to distraction, heartbreak, or even sin. This is a season for him to grow in character, stay focused on his education, build discipline, and lay a strong foundation for his future—not chase after girls.

Remind him that just because his peers have girlfriends doesn’t make it right. Mature, focused, and responsible young men don’t follow the crowd—they make wise decisions based on their personal values and future goals. That’s a strength. That’s the purpose. And that’s the kind of man he’s becoming.

Tell him, “There’s a time for everything—and now is the time to build who he is becoming. Who he becomes now will shape the kind of relationship he will have later.” Let him understand that the girl he’ll love someday deserves the best version of him—not a distracted boy, but a young man prepared.

Explain that real love isn’t about good looks or sweet feelings—it’s about respect, patience, maturity, and purpose. Let him know that love handled without wisdom often leads to regrets—but love handled God’s way brings peace, joy, and a future he can be proud of.

Song of Solomon 8:4 says: Do not awaken love before its time. So teach your son not to wake love before it’s time.

Are you teaching your son about love and emotions—or just hoping he figures it out on his own?

Bye!