Tonto Dikeh, a Nollywood actress and evangelist, has advised Christian men to avoid using spirituality as a cover for emotional indolence when pursuing Christian sisters.
In an Instagram video, Tonto offered the advice. When pursuing a woman for marriage, she exhorted men to take the initiative.
She clarified that during courtship, some men use “low effort” techniques.
“This is a very funny topic, but it is one that we actually need to discuss. So, if you are a brother in the Lord, come forward; this is for you. Why do church brothers think church sisters don’t require gifts? What about this low-effort thing you put into wooing or pursuing a woman? Church brothers would say, ‘God sent me to you,’ and blah, blah. God can send you, but using spiritual language to mask emotional laziness is a distortion of God’s character. Saying, ‘God told me you are my wife,’ is not an excuse to bypass intentionality and practical effort,” she said.
Moving forward, church brothers should strive to do better and show genuine sincerity in their actions rather than hiding behind a holy attitude.
Authenticity and respect build stronger relationships, and it’s time to move beyond superficial displays of piety to truly connect with Christian ladies on a meaningful level. Only then can they earn trust and form lasting, meaningful relationships.
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Rose Ajieh
