Motherhood: Breaking Generational Cycles: Raising Children Differently (11)

Establishing New Parenting Values

Hello, Great Mothers!

Parenting is deeply influenced by cultural and generational beliefs. When we choose to parent differently—using methods that differ from how we were raised—we often face resistance, especially from older generations (such as our parents, aunts, uncles, etc.) who uphold different values and approaches. While their intentions may be good, their perspectives may not always align with the present times.

We can all agree that today’s children cannot be raised exactly as we were, or we risk fostering rebellion and low self-esteem. Our Parenting methods must meet the emotional and Psychological needs of this generation while still instilling strong values and discipline.

Many parents and grandparents view traditional parenting methods as the “right way” because that’s how they raised their children. When we introduce new approaches—such as open communication or prioritizing emotional intelligence—it can feel like a rejection of their efforts or create a fear that our children will not develop good morals.

As a result, they may disagree with us, and express their concerns in the following way;

1)“That’s not how we did it, and you turned out fine.”
2)“You’re being too soft; kids need an iron hand.”
3)“In our time, children were seen, not heard.”

Though their concerns may stem from love and experience, it’s important to stand firm in your parenting methods, and also be respectful.

Strategies for Handling Family Criticism

1) Stay Confident in Your Parenting Choices

Educate yourself on the parenting techniques that work for you and your children. Trusting your decisions and being confident in your approach, as this makes it easier to withstand criticism.

2) Respectfully Set Boundaries

Explain your parenting choices to family and friends with kindness and firmness. For example, “Thank you for your advice, but we are choosing a different approach based on what works for us.”

3) Lead by Example

Portray what you want instead of arguing, let results speak for themselves. When family members see your child thriving under your methods, they will come to accept your pattern of parenting.

4) Find Common Ground

Recognize that older generations have wisdom to share. Acknowledge their values, and integrate good ones into your method of parenting.

Breaking generational cycles doesn’t mean rejecting the past—it means learning from it and creating a healthier future for our children. Stay firm, stay respectful, and keep parenting with love, discipline, and intention! 💛

Bye!