Motherhood: Mom-Teenage Son Conversations That Matter (3b)

Correcting Without Crushing His Spirit (B)

You’re helping your son pick up his heavy school bag from the corridor where he dropped it after finishing his assignment, wondering why he always leaves it there. Then suddenly, something falls out—a small white paper with the words ‘I love you too,’ signed with a girl’s name. Your heart skips. Wait… your son has a girlfriend?

You feel caught off guard. Haven’t you both talked about timing? Purpose? Emotional maturity? The dreams he carries? Your mind races. But before panic, frustration, or anger takes over, Mama—pause.

This isn’t just a parenting hurdle. It’s a tender opportunity. A sacred space to guide—not crush—his heart. And it must be handled with wisdom, patience, and the help of the Holy Spirit.

Don’t jump into interrogation mode. Sit him down gently and say, “Can we talk?” Ask, “What does this relationship mean to you?” Listen, not to rebuke—but to understand and correct him with love.. He may be seeking connection, approval, or just figuring out his emotions. These feelings are real—but that doesn’t mean he’s ready to carry their weight.

Now, walk him through the dangers of early relationships, and let him understand why he needs to walk away now.

– They cloud judgment
– They bring emotional stress he’s not mature enough to manage
– They distract from school, faith, and personal goals
– They can lead to guilt, heartbreak, or regret

Tell him, “Loving someone well begins with discipline; knowing who you are, understanding timing, and guarding your purpose”. Reassure him: “I’m not against love—I’m protecting your future.

Reaffirm his purpose and help him stay focused. Let him know that God’s hand is on his life, and should not let emotions lead him away from his purpose.” Let him know that there is time for everything and it’s not yet time for such emotional relationships now. Let him know that guarding his heart against unhealthy feelings is not weakness— it’s wisdom.

Use the example of Tim Tebow—a former NFL quarterback and man of faith who honored God by waiting in relationships. Today, he’s known not only for athletic success, but also for his strong values and influence.

Above all, let him know he can always talk to you—without fear or shame.

Proverbs 4: 32 — Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.”

Bye!