Ubi Franklin took the audience back to the beginning before discussing the lesson he learned from his marriage to actress Lilian Esoro.
He claims that they first met on January 4, 2015, and that he proposed on March 19, just a few months later. He organized a celebratory dinner at the Red Restaurant in the Eko Hotel because he was eager to move forward. Friends, coworkers, and famous people were invited to observe the momentous occasion. Unfortunately, the plan did not work out.
He wrote on his page, reflecting on the experience:
“I met my now ex-wife on the 4th of January 2015, engaged her on the 19th of March 2015. After I engaged her, I set up a nice dinner at the Red Restaurant of Eko Hotel. I invited all my friends, big boys, everybody. And guess what? She didn’t show up. She had dropped the ring and left.
I was so embarrassed because it was a big thing on social media. Everybody was talking about it. Have you ever cried to the point where you get to a certain level that you cannot cry again? That’s where I was. I couldn’t stay in my house. I ran to Iyanya’s house to see if I could find her because she disappeared. Nobody knew where she was. Then they finally called me that they found her.
After they found her, I started asking her questions like, ‘What happened? What happened?’ Nothing. I checked into a hotel. I don’t know how she knew my room. On the 21st of March 2015, somebody knocked on my door. I opened it, and she was the one. I asked, ‘Why did you do this?’ She said she just had cold feet and all.”
But the calm didn’t last. He further stated:
“After that, we flew to London. We landed back in Nigeria on the 6th of April 2015. That day was AY Live. We dressed up and went for AY Live. It was beautiful. Everything was nice.
I’m telling you this story to let you know some of the things that have happened in my life that I survived, things that almost broke me. After AY Live, the next day, I entered the room only to see that she had dropped the ring on the bed and left. That was another roller coaster.”
“She came back again sometime in June and said she was now ready to get married. So I told her, ‘Fine.’ We started planning the wedding, and we got married. Unfortunately, we later went our separate ways.
But I’ll tell you something. We didn’t go on social media to fight ourselves. We didn’t kill anybody. We became good friends, and we try to live a good life for our son.”
“I went through some depressing moments. I remember one time I bought a red CLA and drove to 3rd Mainland Bridge to end my life. The only luck I had was that my cousin came to save me. Several times I tried to attempt it, and he saved me.
I was so embarrassed, I didn’t know what to do. I kept asking myself, ‘What have I done to deserve all of this?’ I had a good career going for myself. I had been one of the biggest artist in the country at the time. Everything was fine. So I just felt it was time for me to settle down.”
“Sometimes I feel like that relationship didn’t work because it was just meant to be that way. Till today, I can’t even really explain exactly what transpired. But we are very good friends. We co-parent very well. We celebrate events involving our son together.
So sometimes I always believe that regardless of all the pain, the best result I got from that relationship is my son. She’s still doing very well. Any opportunity I have to support her, I always do it to the fullest.
But this is the lesson I want you to learn from this. I don’t want you to think that when something happens between you and another human being, you have to hate that person.
No. That’s not the case. If something happens between you and somebody, sometimes it’s just an opportunity for you to learn from the process and keep it moving”, he advised.
I appreciate the fact that Ubi said you don’t have to harbor hate or resentment towards someone because of what has transpired between you two.
Sometimes, life unfolds in ways we don’t expect, and everything happens for a reason. Embracing this perspective allows us to find peace and understanding, even in difficult situations. Ultimately, forgiveness and acceptance can lead to growth and new beginnings.
Live with Purpose, Love with Passion. Remember to be happy
One ❤️❤️❤️
Rose Ajieh
