Hello Great Mothers!
The dictionary defines Patience as the ability to bear pains or tribulations calmly or without complaint, as well as “remaining firm in the face of pressure, distress, or emotional trauma.
As discussed in my previous article, it is not always easy to remain calm and steadfast amid challenges (a rebellious teenager), complexity (dinner is burned), or struggle (a stubborn child ). Yet, complaining, yelling, or nagging raises your tension and complicates the matter. Screaming, on the other hand, breeds resentment and hostility in you and your family members.
Your views toward yourself and your family have a big impact on how you react to the situations that confront you daily. Your beliefs might become self-fulfilling. If you believe you lack patience and are ineffective as a mother, you are more likely to engage in behaviors that exacerbate your aggravation and reduce your efficacy. Your self-confidence will diminish, hurting your ability to solve difficulties successfully.
Your parenting style is also influenced by your attitudes toward your children. If you believe your children are spoilt, misbehave on purpose, and are “On a mission to get you”, you won’t have much patience with them.
If, on the other hand, you feel they will make mistakes as they develop and learn, you will devote more effort to assisting them in learning from these errors.
Parenting takes time, so patient mothers plan and manage their time efficiently. They allow for unanticipated challenges, such as sick or irritable children. They also provide adequate time to do tasks without feeling hurried or under pressure. For instance, dressing your son appears to be easier and faster. A patience mother recognizes that 20 minutes spent allowing him to wear clothes by himself offers a large reward in building his ability and independence.
Mothers who learn to be patient can achieve inner peace and calmness as parents. They realize that struggle and difficulty are a normal part of life and that a patience organized approach will help them succeed more quickly than complaining, angry remarks, and lasting bitterness.
Patience is an attitude as well as a skill. Therefore we are expected to teach our children this important virtue.
Join me next time as I discuss the importance of patience in parenting.
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