In previous articles, we have discussed the need for us to know the cause of our children’s disrespectful behavior. It may be that they are growing and want more control over their lives, or they are hurting, lonely, in pain, and not yet equipped with the appropriate way of handling their feelings. Whatever the reason is, it is important for us as mothers to be calm and find out the causes of our children’s disrespectful or rude behavior, and then, with the knowledge, we can find an appropriate way of handling their behaviors.
Aside from finding out the causes of their behaviour, our reactions to the rude attitude also matter, as it can affect their development the way they react to issues, and their relationship with us and other people.
Therefore, we shall continue the discussion on the impact of our behavior to our children’s disrespectful behavior.
When we react harshly to our children’s rude behavior, in the process of defending themselves and asserting their independence, they may be defiant. Also, they may see being harsh or strict reactions as an infringement on their autonomy, resulting in a rebellious attitude, to challenge higher authority.
Breakdown of Communication
Our harsh reactions can create a communication barrier between us and our teens. They will find it hard to trust us, thereby reducing their willingness to share their thoughts and feelings openly, The long term effect of this is strain in our relationship with them.
Harsh reactions can create a communication barrier, reducing teens’ willingness to share their thoughts and feelings openly. This communication breakdown impedes the formation of a trustworthy and supportive relationship with our teens. We shall continue this discussion in my next article.
God notices your dedication to caring for your home; He will bless you accordingly. So, be joyful, for a happy mother nurtures a happy home.