Sam Ajibola, better known as Spiff, a character he played on TV, has opened out about becoming a new father.

For a universally understood amalgam of emotions, the complexity of fatherhood is incredibly hard to put into words. What we can say is it’s some combination of love, fear, hope, and just absolutely trying to do your best without having any idea if what you’re doing is right. Thankfully there are many others who have had beautiful things to say like Sam Ajibola.

The actor posted a short video of himself asleep in bed with his newborn son on his chest.

Since the birth of his son, he says his life has “totally transformed.” He talked about his child’s lack of sleep and what he does to get him to sleep.

He went on to say that now that he has been a father, he values all parents much more.

“My life has completely changed since I had my first kid. I mean, is this what parents go through? I now partake in daily night vigils and sleep with him during the day so I can run my shift with him at night. Before you get him to sleep nko? You go carry to your arms weak, you go sing, you go stand, dance and even pray for his eyes to close but the moment you are convinced that he has started sleeping and you try to lay him down so you can rest, BOOM! HIS EYES ARE WIDE OPEN AND HE IS CRYING ALL OVER AGAIN!!!

“I have now come to appreciate all parents more ad give special kudos to those who have twins.”