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Motherhood: Mom-Teenage Son Conversations That Matter (13)
Raising Brave Sons — Building Courage to Pursue Purpose
Sometimes, the greatest enemy of a boy’s future isn’t weakness—it’s fear.
Fear of failure.
Fear of standing out.
Fear of being judged.
Our sons are full of potential, passion, and big dreams—but the fear of failing or being laughed at can keep them from taking the first step. And if we don’t act as their mothers and first teachers, they may begin to quietly shrink away from their God-given purpose.
It’s not enough to help them recognize what they’re good at. We must also help them build the confidence to own it, develop it, and use it—without fear of failure or public opinion. Let’s remind them that every expert, leader, or professional we admire today once started small and likely failed several times before becoming who they are.
Our boys don’t need criticism or pressure. That only discourages and shuts them down. What they need is courage—and it often begins with us. They need to hear, “I believe in you.” They need our encouragement when they’re scared and our gentle strength when they feel unsure.
Help your son see that courage could look like: – Signing up for a competition
– Standing up for what’s right
– Taking responsibility after a mistake
– Trying again after failure
Remind him of Moses, who once said, “I can’t speak well.” But God replied, “I will help you” (Exodus 4:10–12). That’s the truth our sons need—God equips those He calls.
Tell your son that fear is not a stop sign—it’s a stepping stone. Bravery isn’t about being loud; it’s about showing up, even when it’s hard. Mistakes don’t define him—they grow him.
Celebrate his efforts, not just outcomes. Then pray with him, Speak life, Speak strength, Speak the truth over his life.
For God has not given you a spirit of fear, but of power, love, and sound judgment.” — 2 Timothy 1:7
How are you helping your son face fear so it doesn’t hold him back from his purpose?
