Motherhood: Teaching Kids About Anger Management: A Guide For Mothers (6)

Hello Great Mothers!

According to Meri Wallace, LCSW, parenting expert, child and family therapist, and author of Birth Order Blues, infants and toddlers can’t tell you what’s wrong or what they need. “Instead, they express these feelings and needs physically.’’ He goes on to say that children “see their wishes and desires as urgent,” and that when they are not met, they express themselves physically as a kind of protest against having their desires tuned down and feeling powerless.

This means that children lack impulse control, so when upset or furious, they have an almost rapid stimulus-response reaction. Because they are unable to successfully convey their wants, needs, or feelings, they may lash out with aggressive behavior such as hitting, biting, and yelling.

We are our children’s first teachers as mothers. We teach children the basic principles of morality. As a result, we are supposed to educate our children on how to manage their anger. Some of the methods for accomplishing this have been addressed in my earlier article. In this piece, we will look at more methods.

Teach Healthy Coping Skills

Children must be taught proper ways to express their displeasure. Instead of being instructed, “Don’t hit your brother,” explain what they can do when they are irritated. say, “Next time, use your words” and “Walk away from him when you feel angry.”

You might also ask, “What could you do instead of hitting?” to assist your children in developing options that may be beneficial.

Provide Consequences When Necessary

Give your children good consequences for adhering to the anger management guidelines and negative consequences for breaking the rules. For example, when your child is agitated, positive consequences, such as a reward system or token economy, might push them to utilize anger management techniques.

If your child becomes aggressive, take urgent action. Time-outs, loss of privileges, or making reparation by doing extra chores are all effective repercussions.

Teaching your children how to handle their emotions will be beneficial to them as they grow into adulthood.

Watch out for the next article, in which we will explore the necessity of teaching our children how to handle their anger.

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