Motherhood: Love Your Child, Don’t Spoil Your Child (16)

A child is not born spoiled, but if his needs are always met and he never hears “no,” he could develop spoiled behavior. The term “spoiled child” refers to children who display behavioral problems as a result of their parents’ and caregivers’ excessive indulgence.

As discussed in my previous article, this behavior can be corrected. The following disciplinary methods will be useful:

Ensure that they always perform their chores:
Giving your children age-appropriate duties will not only assist in reducing some of your workload but will also foster a feeling of responsibility in them. The earlier the better, but ensure you assign to them the chores appropriate for their age. This makes them independent. However, if you don’t ensure this, you will support them for the rest of their life.

2 calm down to discuss their wrongdoings:
Anger-fueled responses won’t help your child learn a lesson or get well; on the contrary, they could make things worse. When they misbehave or act disrespectfully, you should explain your position and kindly suggest ways in which they may change their behavior.

Teach your child to be helpful by offering to volunteer together to help the elderly and the poor: provide food for hungry families, or assist the elderly to clean up their environment. This will inspire your children to think beyond themselves. These tiny deeds of kindness will show your children that some are less fortunate than they are and that by lending a helping hand, they can improve their own lives.

When we give our children everything they want, do all they want, and don’t discipline them when necessary, then we put ourselves in the way of their future development. It is important we know that it is our goal to raise tomorrow’s adults to be responsible, and independent.