Motherhood: Love Your Child, Don’t Spoil Your Child (9)

Hello Great Mothers!

The love of a mother for her child is unconditional and unexplainable. This may be a result of the attachment every good mother has with her baby from the womb. We feel them right from when they are still in the womb, we love them and pray for them unconditionally because we are part of their development right from the womb. But do we love them to the extent of spelling them and making them irresponsible?

Yes, it is good we love them and express it. According to psychologists, it will them to grow into balanced adults. Often we do things that can spoil our children unconditionally. Some of those actions have been discussed in my previous articles. Another one is;

Not Disciplining when necessary

So, it is natural to love them unconditionally, but also establish reasonable boundaries so they learn what is and is not acceptable. They benefit from being taught discipline and moderation. These restrictions will also aid in giving kids a sense of security and safety. Many mothers don’t like making rules, but they later regret it because their children don’t easily obey them. Mothers become frustrated as a result, and they must plead with them to win them over. Setting rules is simple for some parents, but they don’t make sure their kids follow them. Make sure your child follows the guidelines you set once you’ve done so.

Helping out too much
It is not right to always help out your children when they are having trouble completing a task. Your child quickly learns that as soon as he/she starts to cry, you’ll run to comfort him/her right away. The next thing you know, the child will start depending on you for everything, including getting dressed and completing a difficult task. He is aware that the instant he begins to complain, you will be there to assist him.

Our role as mothers is to support and instill in our children the confidence to complete tasks on their own, not to babysit them.

When your child begins to show indications of distress, refrain from helping him and explain to him in a calm but strong manner that he must try it by himself, and the benefits.

We shall continue this in my next article.

Bye!