Exclusive
Tips To Help First-Time Moms Get Through Tough Times
It’s an incredible experience to become a mother for the first time. Nothing you have ever experienced compares to this. This is one crazy adventure that no one can adequately prepare you for.
When the doctors told me congratulations immediately the midwife placed my first child in my arms, oh, the joy I felt was indescribable. I was overwhelmed.
In that moment I felt both elated as well as nervous as I held my tiny baby. I cradled my small baby and felt both excited and terrified at the same time.
Although it comes naturally to love your child and we all know that caring for a newborn can be challenging. There are several challenges, ranging from restless nights to not understanding how to bathe someone so small to why the baby is crying…and more.
You are not alone on this. There are lots of new moms out there who are attempting to navigate this.
Here are some pointers to keep in mind as you set out on this new journey.
- Seek Assistance
I was overwhelmed with emotion after giving birth to my first kid I was unable to hold her and was unsure of how to carry her. I was also unable to bathe her either. I tried to exercise the utmost caution but I was fortunate enough to have my mother visit and assist, teaching me the proper way to care for a newborn.
When in need, don’t be afraid to seek assistance.
A solid network of family and friends who can provide direction, assistance, and emotional support should be a part of your life.
- Take Very Good Care Of Yourself
As a new mother, you must take care of yourself in order to be the best caregiver for your crying and loving baby, even though it may feel impossible at times.
Make sure you prioritize self-care activities that make you feel good, eat healthily, and get as much rest as you can. Take a break when you are tired. Your body and your mind are interconnected. You need good health, confidence, and sanity to take of your child.
- Bond With Your Baby When You Feel Lonely And At All Times
Being a first-time mother can be both an amazing and challenging experience. Most new mothers frequently experience depression and feelings of loneliness.
My mother helped me nurse my first child for four months before leaving. A few days after my mother left, I felt incredibly alone, depressed, and confused about a lot of things. My social life was nonexistent, and I put a lot of things on hold despite my husband’s efforts to help out in some areas.
Unconsciously, I started talking more to my child when we were alone. When depression kicks in I express my feelings as though I was confiding in an adult, I say out how lonely and depressed I was. She giggles as if she understands what am going through and that makes me happy.
Gradually, I began to feel relaxed. I hug her more and make skin-to-skin contact while I spend quality time with her. Our mother and child bond deepens as I snap out of my loneliness and depression.
- Trust Your Instinct
It is true that mothers have a sixth sense; therefore, follow your instincts when making decisions regarding your child’s care.
You are the only one who truly knows your child, so trust your gut and act in the way that seems best for both of you.
You might not be able to distinguish between what is effective and ineffective for you as a first-time mother but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t try.
It’s common for new mothers to have a lot of questions. Using a pacifier can help your baby fall asleep, and your baby’s cries may indicate that they are hungry, overturned, cranky, or uncomfortable being in a particular position. Finding out what works best for your infant can be accomplished by experimenting with various things.
Don’t feel compelled to do anything different or feel ashamed; just do what suits you and your child.
- Be Patient
Being a mother is difficult, therefore it’s critical to forgive yourself and develop self-compassion for any perceived inadequacies. Be patient with the process and yourself.
Never forget that your baby needs you more than anything else. Applaud yourself for you’re doing the best you can for your child.
As you both negotiate this new chapter in your lives, have patience with yourself and your child.
Motherhood is a learning process, take it easy on yourself.
Gentle Reminder: Be careful how you use your authority and influence, be wise, and treat others with respect.
Chychy Jonas
