MOTHERHOOD: Good And Bad Parenting Skills 2

Hi, my beautiful and energetic Mothers! I discussed good and bad parenting skills in my last article. The idea is to open our eyes to good simple parenting skills that we can adopt as mothers, and the ones we need to avoid in nurturing our kids. Instead of trying to be more authoritative, or not to be too authoritarian, etc, which can be confusing sometimes, we can apply these simple skills in our parenting. With our continuous effort and God’s help, we will achieve amazing results for our children.

In my previous article, I discussed three of these skills. However, in this article, we will discuss more good parenting skills that we can apply.

1) Guide your children, do not control them: Eph 6:4 says “And you, fathers, do not provoke your children to wrath, but bring them up in the training and admonition of the Lord”. When they discover that we are controlling them, they feel resented or provoked. How do we control them? When we are fond of making a statement like; “I will spank you if you don’t do your assignment”, You will not take your snacks if you don’t tidy up your room’. Instead, you guide by following these steps;
i) Control your emotion
ii) Explain to them the consequences of their actions
iii) Provide assistance so that they can learn.
iv) Before you correct, connect.
v) Set boundaries. Tell them why it was set, but do so with empathy.

2) Talk to Your Child: communication is key in a Mother-Child relationship. Talk to your child and listen to him/her. Ask them about their day and friends. This will help you to build a good and cordial relationship with your kids. This will also help your child to freely come to you when there is a problem.

3) Help your child to develop good social skills: E.g.; Helping others, Listening, not interrupting, Being polite, appreciating others, sharing, Managing negative emotions, etc. This helps to build their self-confidence and help them to be successful in their relationships and at what they do.

4) Look back on your childhood: Consider your own childhood. Note down the things you would like to change and make a conscious effort in changing them.

5) Be a Good Role Model: Don’t just talk, practice what you say. This is due to the fact that children mimic what their mothers do. They believe in you, they believe you are the best, and they tend to mimic your attitude; reactions to people, things, and so on. So, keep a positive attitude.

6) Love your child and show them you do: This gives them a sense of security. This should not stop disciplining when the need arises but should be done with love.

7) Love your spouse: It helps to build a conducive home environment for the children. According to a psychologist, children strive more in such an environment.

8) Take time to rest: A stressful Woman is a nagging Mother.

Implementing these skills will assist you in becoming a better mother, and you will witness your child grow into a more responsible, motivated, and successful adult.

I hope this article has been helpful. Kindly share your thought.
Bye for now!