Woman Seek For Advice After Her Husband Slept With Her Sister While On Marriage Break

Is “taking a marriage break” ever a good idea?

Before bringing the idea up with your soulmate, give some serious thought to why you’re considering going down that lane because many couples get back together again after they go on break while some don’t.

A confused and heartbroken wife has asked for advice after finding out that her beloved husband had s*xual intercourse with her sister while they were on a break.

The woman, who posted her predicament on Reddit, explained that she and her husband (Dave) had a brief separation from their marriage after a fight over her spending time with a male co-worker, named Chris.

During their time apart, the woman slept with Chris and her husband had an affair with her sister, who she is somewhat estranged from — and she feels betrayed he chose to do it with a family member.

“I would go out with co-workers after work and he would get upset that I got home late. One particular guy, Chris, he didn’t want me hanging around,” the woman explained.

“My husband, Dave, just didn’t like him and told me he didn’t want me around him. I told him he was being silly and controlling. Things exploded when Chris had an extra ticket to a baseball game for my favourite team and invited me to go. I said yes, but knowing Dave would be angry, I told him I had to work that day.”

When she returned home, the woman realized Dave had been tracking her location and knew she wasn’t at work.

After admitting she was at a baseball game with Chris, their argument exploded into a huge fight with accusations of affairs and stalking, and they decided to separate the next morning.

“I moved out and stayed with my sister (28F). I hate to admit it but I felt relieved. I felt like there was no trust in him, no give, and no chance to grow. When Chris found out what happened, he felt horrible, but I told him it wasn’t his fault,” she continued.

“I did date Chris for a few months, but we really didn’t have the long-term compatibility that I was seeking. It was nice to date again and feel very open to new experiences. He just wasn’t looking for marriage and kids, which is what I want.”

After spending nine months apart, the COVID-19 pandemic hit, and the woman reconnected with Dave when her grandfather caught the virus.

They decided to “give things another try”, and that involved being honest about what happened during their separation.

“I asked if he was with anyone when we were apart, he said he had one partner. This surprised me as he was never much of a dater but I’d been with one person as well, which I admitted and we both moved forward,” she went on.

“The sister who I stayed with, called me up and informed me that my husband had sex with my other sister while we were separated. I have a strained relationship with this sister, but I never thought she’d cross that line.”

After the bombshell news, the Reddit user confronted Dave and was met with apathy. He said he would admit he was a “terrible” person for sleeping with her sister only if she could honestly say she didn’t sleep with Chris during their time apart.

“I didn’t respond and he just nodded and smugly said, ‘That’s what I thought!'” she said.

“He keeps saying, ‘You created a no-win situation that I have to live with for the rest of my life, so I returned the favour’.”

She added: “I can’t be rational about this. Every time I bring it up I’m shaking with rage at both of them and end up raising my voice and screaming at him. What do I even do here? I don’t think I want a divorce, but I can’t stand to look at him right now.”

The woman’s plea for advice received several furious comments, mostly from people who agreed she was in the wrong.

“I see no innocence from anyone in this situation. In all the times you went out with co-workers did Dave ever have a problem with anyone other than Chris? Doesn’t sound like it to me. You lied to Dave and did exactly what you wanted to. Then you dated Chris right after being separated,” one person commented.

“Him sleeping with your sister was a s–t thing to do too but, you were separated. I know this still doesn’t excuse that in my book but, it was a fact.”

Another wrote: “Honestly you breached a major boundary in your marriage, blame shifted onto your husband for finding out and then dated the man you betrayed your husband for.

“Having intimate relations with your sister is distasteful yes, but I wouldn’t exactly say your husband’s behaviour pushed you both into separation.”

In my opinion, it’s possible to get back together after taking a break — but first, you need to establish ground rules which guys didn’t.

Well, I hope you both acknowledge the fact that you are both guilty, forgive and work on your marriage.