Emmanuel Ikubese, a Nigerian actor and filmmaker, has talked candidly about his unhappy marriage to famous makeup artist Anita Adetoye.
As you may remember, the couple tied the knot in a much-discussed ceremony that attracted national attention in March 2020. But by February 2021, after Ikubese removed wedding pictures from his Instagram page and both of them stopped following one another, rumors of a breakup started to circulate.
In a recent interview with the Archives of Becoming Podcast, Ikubese clarified that the marriage’s dissolution was a significant personal loss. He claimed that the circumstance caused him to seriously doubt himself, particularly since he had always wanted a secure family life.
He said, “It was an identity thing. If you don’t find your identity, you always find yourself in moments like this. And for me, everything leading up to who I was from Kenya felt like that put me on the highway. And God needed a reset, and that was the reset for me.
“I’d always desired a family, and now I had gotten it. Anyone who knows me knows I’m very family-oriented, and for the very first time in my life, that made me feel like a failure. The wedding I had was very high-profile. It was one of the biggest weddings in Nigeria at the time, and I just felt like I’d failed.
“It changed my life. It changed how I see life. It changed who I am, literally, because it felt like I had to go back to God, and I said, “Okay, God, where did I miss this?” And I thank God because it just felt like God was waiting for me.
“It’s like God trying to call your attention for a very long time, right, and now he’s like, okay, finally I get your attention, right, and I thank God that I took that to him, but it took me on a journey that was a really painful journey.
“I was always a lost Emmanuel. It felt like I was this very popular person. It felt like the world was celebrating me. But you see, the world was celebrating someone who had not even found himself.
“I had not found myself. I didn’t even understand why I was in the industry. Fame just felt good, you know. I didn’t struggle for it. And I was living that life, doing everything. I didn’t understand the hurts that carried along the line. Everything didn’t start in 2020. 2020 was just a crash.”
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