MOTHERHOOD: MY EXPERIENCE !!! PARENTING: DEPRESSION IN CHILDREN 4

My son suffered from the Relational type of Bullying. It was not noticed by the class teacher, nor his classmates, as they indirectly joined his assistant in the Bullying process. No physical contact, no abusive words, but through her conduct she made everyone believe that he was not fit to be the class captain.

I was in the kitchen preparing dinner and he was at the zinc washing plate. I noticed he was quiet, which was unusual, as he would have been telling me about everything that happened in school that day. Then, it occurred to me that he has been quiet about school lately. It’s been a while since I heard him talk about his classmates, friends, and his daily experience as a class captain.

Oh my God! I have been too busy to notice that my son has been quiet about school for some time. We are human, we cannot always notice immediately when something is not right with our children. The stress we go through daily as 8 am to 4 or 5 pm mother or a businesswoman/mother, coupled with taking care of the home. It’s possible not to notice when a child suddenly keeps to himself or herself.

This is why we need the help of the Holy Spirit in raising our children. He inspires us before things get out of hand. He calls our attention to issues in our homes, before they get too serious to handle. He opens our inner eyes and minds to things we will ordinarily not notice by ourselves, except we don’t obey. He will not only call our attention to issues that could affect our homes but also give us the wisdom to handle them. He is a GREAT HELPER to all mothers in raising our kids. An intimate relationship with the Holy Spirit is the Key to Good Parenting.

Once I realized through the help of the Holy Spirit that He has been keeping to himself, I asked him about school and he was quiet, his head bowed, with a look of disappointment on His face, but no response. I guessed he was disappointed in himself. I drew closer to him, held his hands, and reminded him that we have a rule in the house, that no keeping of secrets and he should be free to tell me what the problem was.

He told me that his assistant was always in school before him and arranged the books on the bookshelf. We stay a bit far from the school, even though he gets to school early, like past Seven, she still gets to school before him because her house was closer to the school.

Also, her chair was close to the door of the class, so she always get to the staff office to call the teacher for the next subject before him. And he the class captain could not perform his duties because she was always doing everything before him. This made his classmates see him as not capable of the position of class captain. He said some of his classmates told him that his assistant was better than him.

I made him realize how intelligent he is, and that the class teacher knew he was capable of being the class captain, that was why he was chosen, while the girl was chosen to assist him. I also told him that he is supposed to delegate duties to his assistant when he is occupied. I encouraged him to talk to her, that they are not competing for anything. That the role was given to them for orderliness in the classroom. I charged him to explain to her the need for both of them to work hand in hand.

What was her response?

Kindly watch out for my next episode where  I will share with you her response and how I handled it exclusively here on Agnesisika’s blog.