Lead Pastor of Harvesters International Christian Center Bolaji Idowu has advised wives not to confess their cheating husbands’ transgressions on their behalf, arguing that doing so might incite more immorality.
The cleric was seen preaching during a recent church service in a video that went viral on social media on Wednesday. In it, he counseled wives against calling their husbands “serial cheaters” or admitting their transgressions.
Pastor Bolaji urged women to refer to their husbands as “the righteousness of God in Christ Jesus,” arguing that such statements could exacerbate the situation.
The cleric said, “Any small thing, ‘my husband is a serial cheater.’ What he has seen is a problem, also, because you are adding to his problem by confessing it.
“If your husband is a cheater, confess righteousness out of him. Look at him with tears: ‘Honey, I know what you did. I know it was very, very bad. But you are the righteousness of God in Christ Jesus. You are a holy man of God.”
“The reason why is this: every time there’s darkness, we speak light. You call it out of him. Next time, when he’s driving, and he sees that lady with ikebe (curves), the head will say, ‘Look,’ he will say, ‘I’m the righteousness of God in Christ Jesus. I’m the righteousness of God in Christ Jesus,” Pastor Bolaji insisted.
He said, “The reason why is this: everybody rises to words. Everybody falls to words. When Jesus Christ got to the tomb of Lazarus, the only person who did not see Lazarus was dead was Jesus Christ. He said he was asleep. When it was time, he told the sisters, ‘I am the resurrection and the life.’”
“Don’t say what you see; say what you want. Don’t say ‘you’re a serial cheater,’ say ‘you’re a holy man of God.’ Because what you say is what you will become. Someone says, ‘Mmm, you’ve been saying it’s a serious cheater—has it changed?’ No,” he concluded.
It’s important to understand that Pastor Bolaji’s advice is intended to encourage and counsel women through challenging situations.
His goal is to promote understanding, patience, and strength in relationships, reminding women to approach their husbands with righteousness and compassion, even in difficult times.
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